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It's not 'emotional labour', it's kin work

call it by its real name: kin work (or: f'kin work)

We had initiated the idea of gathering, had clung on through the tedious months of back and forth to find a time and place, had planned the food, researched, brought, and wrapped the presents. From remembering birthdays to organising the Secret Santa, this kin work required effortful micro-management, communication and other tasks, yet was often seen as easy, instinctive and done for leisure or pleasure, or out of generous spirited feeling. Your kin are the people who will drive forty miles to pick you up when the car has been impounded and your wallet stolen, feed your cat, or give you somewhere to stay during your divorce.

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